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Take Two — I’d like to try this again . . . and let you know the real me

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I quickly wrote an “About Me” story back in October that had a list of my most impressive writing accomplishments, a personable professional headshot, and . . . no soul. I wrote it, checked it off my to-do list, and moved on to my next activity. Unfortunately, sometimes, I do that kind of thing. I’m working on being more mindful and I’m working on myself.

I thought that you Medium readers would only be interested in my past experiences associated with writing. I thought that if I told you I used to be a dancer, an actor, a producer, a…

I’m rubber, you’re glue…

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We’ve all been there. The times when the putrid, emotionally-charged word vomit of others makes its unwanted splat on our vulnerable souls. No one can know when it will happen until it’s too late. But, when it does, time’s up. Yoshi wins. You’ve been slimed by the unaddressed childhood trauma of some other inconsiderate cohabitant of this massive chunk of rock.

What does one do when smacked in the face with an unwarranted passionate response to what you thought would be a benign interaction? What do you do when you receive the stare of death and harsh words in response…

My successful morning routine in 5 words — Get the f*ck to work

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I tried every flavor of the morning routine circus. I meditated, worked out, journaled, drank 36 ounces of water, practiced gratitude, took cold showers, filled out my Brendon Burchard high-performance planner, set intentions for the day, and got out in nature. And I wasted a $h!t ton of time.

Some self-improvement guru once said, “Keep the main thing the main thing.” I wholeheartedly agree. I day batch, so my main thing is different every day. But my main thing on any given day is sure as h-e-double-hockey-sticks, not a perfect morning routine. …

An establishment that refuses to be left in the dust of the evolutionary adaptation of our society

Outdoor dining patios on a small cobblestone street
Outdoor dining patios on a small cobblestone street
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It is the most charmingly French parking lot in West Hollywood and I adore it.

We have seen many a pivot during this global pandemic, but the complete transformation of the parking lot of Los Angeles’ La Boheme into a veritable Parisian sitting room is everything that is wonderful about humanity.

I entered through an iron trellis covered in bougainvillea. The space was surrounded by a white fence, the ground was covered by a muted cacophony of various artfully patterned rugs, and there were plush velvet jewel-toned sofas arranged in little clumps to encourage appropriately distanced conversation. …

Sometimes you need some inspiration to give inspiration

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I despise articles that say things like, “There’s no such thing as writer’s block.” There may not be such a thing as writer’s block for some people, but I’m here to tell you that I believe everybody gets stuck once in a while. The teenage version of Michelle wants to clench my fists and shout, You don’t know my life!

Even if your well of article ideas is bottomless, sometimes it helps grease the wheels of your creativity if someone puts the lotion in the basket and cranks a few ideas down to you. Let me help you, Clarisse.


How to not be one of the 20% that fail in the first year

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I was chatting with a gentleman last week who has a fantastic idea for a business. He is proactively seeking investors for his startup and set up a call with me to “tell me all about it.” Read: Ask me for money.

I love hearing about new projects. And if I feel the project has a good probability of succeeding, I will consider investing. However, this man uttered four sentences that made me immediately hit the mental red eject button. I was out. Never to get back in.

“This is a solid idea. Where are you currently with the company…

It ain’t the 1900s anymore, folks

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I find pen names interesting. The whole idea of writing under a nom de plume was a great idea back in the early 1900s when there could be a little anonymity provided by creating a new name. These days, unless you’re really savvy, they’re pretty useless.

Why would someone write under a pen name in the first place? Well, there are a number of reasons.

  • You want to be perceived as a different gender than your given name suggests
  • You want to distinguish some of your creations from others (i.e. different names for journalism and erotica)
  • You want to separate…

You don’t have to be forgetful to employ helpful principles

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“Do you remember when we went to Zion and climbed up that rock to take photos we thought we would use as headshots and then we got stuck?” My friend’s run-on question made my brain glaze over. That seemed like something I would do…

I closed my eyes to concentrate. Nope, I thought. Nada. No recollection. I desperately dug around in my brain like I was searching for the last pink Starburst in my kid’s Halloween basket. Zion, Zion, it sounded familiar. After about 30 seconds, my brain started singing On The Willows from Godspell. And I was officially off…

Stop mentally bullying yourself

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How many times have we quietly said rude things to ourselves inside our minds? One mistake, one misstep can cause us to mentally beat ourselves up. We can say things inside our minds that we never would utter out loud. We speak to ourselves the way we would never speak to a friend. What gives, friends?

Are you aware of the way you talk to yourself inside your mind? Do you fall, misspeak, or fail and then mentally rebuke yourself?

I can’t believe I’m so dumb. I always say the wrong thing. I am so ugly/skinny/dumb/unpopular/unsuccessful/fat/clumsy/[insert terrible judgment here].


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